Ridiculousness...

I really had to contemplate which direction to take on this subject. However, after witnessing pure ridiculousness on FB (yet again), I’ve decided to take the following route…

I’ve come to the conclusion that Facebook must have somehow been derived from the Latin words for hypocrisy and contradiction. For some reason, people have deemed it necessary to air all of their dirty laundry and woes on FB. If you’re going to complain about the behavior of others in such a public forum, please be prepared for people to be “in your business” and to behave in ways that they wouldn’t have the nerve to face to face. Geez, there are so many issues regarding this topic. I’ll do my best to stick to one or two.

Let me start off by saying that if you’re going to complain about a particular individual, one that will no doubt know that you are speaking of them, don’t try to cover it up and say you’re referring to a group of people and not just the individual. If you can be big enough to put it out there, be big enough to deal with the consequences. Second, if you’re complaining that your partner is behaving in a way that is not acceptable to you, please remember to check out your reflection before you post your feelings. I find it hilariously entertaining to read through posts on FB where one is complaining about the other, the other comments, then the one is saying “no, it’s not you, it’s everyone.” Then the other questions how many others there are, the one says I can only manage you, yet, there is evidence to the contrary…

How can anyone complain that the partner they have chosen isn’t perfect or ideal anymore when YOU are consistently trying to hook up with others… Hmm, pure ridiculousness.

Now, on to the other issue here – STOP, FOR THE LOVE OF HUMANITY, posting all your dang business on FB. I get it, FB allows you the freedom to express yourself. Guess what, so does your dang mouth. If you can’t communicate your feelings verbally, don’t pretend that you’re all brave by hiding behind FB. When will we as a society learn that social media works best when used to promote positive things? I mean, can YOU really be mad that someone comments on your very nasty (and in my opinion, trashy) post and calls you trash? I mean, you were just calling the individual trash in your post… Come on folks. Stop the madness. Get it together, quit being so self-absorbed and learn that you’re only going to get out of life what you put into it.

That’s all for now. I just couldn’t help myself. Ridiculousness on social media is at an all-time high this week, and here it is only MONDAY!

Let’s all go back to when we were 3 and the only problems in life were whether or not Bananas in Pajamas was coming on.  ;)

When you should know better...

We all know that envy is an ugly monster, right? How many of you would raise your hand if someone asked who was envious of another’s life? I would hope that most of us, myself included, would understand that being envious of another’s life is not a good thing. I like to think that I’m a firm believer in hard work and perseverance. If we work hard and try to continue reaching for the stars we’ll get there eventually. I also like to think that I’m mature enough to understand that each person has his or her own story and that what we see on the outside is not as dreamy as it looks. Everyone has their own demons and struggles that they have dealt with to get where they are, right?

So what do you do when you find yourself wishing that you were in another person’s shoes? What happens when, despite the fact that you know better, you find yourself jealous of the life/situation of another person? What do you do when you find yourself daydreaming about what your life would be like if you were in the other person’s situation?

This is a good time to inform you that I have no answer for this. This blog is merely an attempt to empty thoughts from my mind so that I may stop going over the situation in my brain.

Should you not try to remind yourself that all things happen for a reason? Should you not remind yourself that there is a reason you are in your situation and there is also a reason the other person is in theirs? It doesn’t matter that you feel like your chance at that life was cut short. It doesn’t matter that you feel like you should be the one in his or her place. The fact of the matter is that you’re not and there is a good reason for this, I’m sure. So how do you make yourself understand that there is a perfectly good reason for you not being in the situation you feel you should be? The only thing I can say is that you must somehow convince yourself that the reason (whatever it is) that you’re not in a situation you feel should be yours is a good one. That, or just continue to fake the funk and pretend that the situation you see in front of you doesn’t bother you. Either way, grow the hell up and keep moving. Stop wanting what isn’t yours or isn’t for you.

Speaking Spanglanese...

This CSA is based off of my own personal catastrophe…

Over the weekend, I had the pleasure of listening to my 2 year old son hold some very “serious” conversations with my 11 year old niece. While Colt seemed to know exactly what he was saying, Carli’s response was always, “Sir! I do not understand the language you are speaking!” After the first few responses from Carli, I informed her that the reason she didn’t understand Colt was because he was speaking Spanglanese… apparently this is his own language that makes all the sense in the world to him, but no sense to anyone else (except for me since I’m usually pretty good at figuring out what he is saying).

I’ve been told that I have been blessed with the ability to articulate my thoughts well. In most cases, this seems to be true. However, over the weekend I seem to have run into a couple of situations where although what I was saying made sense in my head, it DID NOT make sense to the other party involved. I’m taking full responsibility for this as I’m the one that’s having trouble communicating my thoughts. I should mention at this point that the entire conversations were had via text message… something I so don’t believe should be used to have serious conversations.  This being said, I’m afraid I may have altered a very good friendship that I’m not sure how to repair.

The lesson from all of this? There are two parts: 1) Never, ever, ever use text messages as a means for a serious conversation! Never! 2) Before having a conversation with someone, try thinking it through in your head, and if needed, again on paper (since obviously what makes sense in your head may not make any sense to someone else). If you find that the other party isn’t grasping what you’re trying to say, stop the conversation, re-evaluate what you’re saying, and start over with a different approach (if you’re allowed the chance).

The most important part of this CSA is that we should all realize that at some point in our lives, we are speaking Spanglanese. Once you realize this, it will be easier to handle stressful situations where you feel someone just isn’t listening to you. It may not be the other person, it may be that to them, what you’re saying is coming out in a language they just don’t understand.

The end. Hope this made sense and isn’t Spanglanese to those of you reading it.  J

First Impressions

Remember when, a long time ago, someone told you that first impressions are everything? Guess what, they are. In this day and age, people are quick to base their opinions on just about anything on their initial experience (i.e. first impression).

Let me state here that there are so many paths to take on this subject, however, I’m going to limit my comments to your own first impression. The one you portray to others.

If you don’t want to be classified as a particular sort of person, or stereotyped, then you should take care of how you portray yourself to others. Seriously, you’re grown, right? Stop getting upset when people treat you a certain way. Stop and look at yourself to figure out if the way people are treating you is directly affected by the way you portray yourself. (I’m going to list examples here. If you find yourself becoming offended, either stop reading or start taking a long hard look at yourself.) If you don’t take pride in the way you look, for example, people may take a first look at you and think that you’re a slob. (I’m not saying we don’t have days where we just are a mess… if you catch me in Wal-Mart on a Saturday, your reaction would probably be WTH!!) When people think of a slob, they think lazy. When people think of lazy, they think you’re not willing to put effort into anything. When people think this, there is a good chance that you won’t be on the top of their list when they are looking for someone to take charge and be a leader. Next in line… if you’re consistently seen with appears to be a scowl on your face, regardless of the reason, people will tend to think you’re a b…(I’m talking about myself here, lol). If people think this of you, they aren’t likely to approach you for anything. End of story. If you are someone that is consistently bragging about what you have and putting other people down for not achieving what you have, people will believe you’re arrogant. When people think arrogant, they think selfish. When people think selfish, they think you’re not willing to do anything that will directly benefit you therefore they will not come to you for anything. (This is a great way to turn off someone you’re trying to impress…) Finally, and here is where some of you will definitely get offended, if you don’t want people to associate you with trash or thug… STOP for the love of humanity, dressing and behaving in ways that feed into the stereotypes associated with such behavior.

I guess what I’m trying to get at here is that if you don’t want to be a stereotype, then stop using the stereotypes as an excuse to behave the way you do. Take pride in who you are and what you have to offer society. Learn to be a productive citizen of society. You start this process by really taking a long look at who you are, who you want to be and how you’re presenting yourself to others.
As always, if you’re needing some help with this, I’m always happy to dish out free advice…

"I'm just too busy!"

Please, to all of the people out there using the excuse that they are just too busy, stop with the tired out excuse. You really aren't as busy as you think you are. I'm currently a full time mom to an awesome little boy (a single full time mom), I work full time, I go to school full time, I'm also currently working on creating a website for our company, planning a community day event to benefit a local health clinic (this includes going around the community and physically talking to people to raise money and/or support) and working with an outside company to get a new database created/installed for work. Yet, I still find time to do the things that I find worthwhile. So if you're constantly using the I'm busy excuse as to why you can't do something, give me a call and I'll be more than willing to offer some free time management advice! I find that people ALWAYS make time for what they want  to make time for... something to think about?